5 Tips for Fashion Over 50

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So. I want to start this fashion over 50 post with one very important point. (Pay attention because it matters.)

If wearing big, bold prints, or miniskirts, or red cowboy boots, or angel wings with gold glitter makes you feel incandescently happy, that’s what you should wear.

Don’t let anybody talk you out of it. Not even me. The best part about fashion over 50 is that it’s on your terms.

One of my favorite fictional characters (and a favorite of my readers as well) is Mary Dell Templeton, the heroine of Between Heaven and Texas and From Here To Home.  Mary Dell’s fashion sense is…well, questionable.  And though she would be the first to admit that she has “no more taste than a hothouse tomato,” she likes the way she looks. And that’s good. Far be it from me to try and talk Mary Dell, or anybody who truly feels good about their current fashion choices, into changing.

However, some of you have been writing to request tips about what to wear when you’re over 50 and I thought I’d address that today.

Once upon a time, my fashion philosophy pretty much amounted to this: if it fits and looks good on the hanger, buy it.

That was before I started doing promotional tours for my books, which involve lots of television interviews and posing for pictures. Believe me, nothing will help you identify and correct your fashion fails like seeing a picture of yourself wearing a really unfortunate outfit plastered all over Facebook.

Those experiences have shaped my fashion over 50 philosophy: “Simplicity is always in fashion.”

CLASSIC STYLE

One of the best things about life beyond 50 is the experience you’ve gained along the road. At this point, you’ve lived long enough to know a trend when you see it and to realize it won’t last.

So called “flash fashion” can be cheap but if you only wear it a couple times before it falls apart or goes out of style, that ten dollar top is no bargain. The secret to fashion over 50 is going for a pricier but beautifully tailored piece you’ll wear one hundred times over five years. That’s a much better deal.

Here’s my trick for buying investment pieces on a budget: at the end of the season, check out the sale racks in search of high quality, classic garments. If you find a piece you love, buy it and save it for next year. Because it’s timeless, it will still be in style when the season rolls around and for years to come.

MIX AND MATCH BASICS

Stick to well constructed, basic pieces made from excellent fabrics that you can mix and match. These are the foundation pieces you need to build a wardrobe that’s sophisticated, flexible, and fabulous for fashion over 50.

Two great jackets, two pairs of tailored trousers, two sweaters, three crisp cotton blouses, a simple dress in a solid color, and a skirt that can take you around the world in style.

Or even on a six-week book tour. No kidding. I’ve done it.

SOLIDS

As an avid quilter, I never met a patterned fabric I didn’t love, but when it comes to fashion over 50, solids are usually the way to go.

I’m not saying that you should never wear patterns but when you do, they should usually be subtle and small in scale. A small check, tweed, or plaid can really add panache to your outfit but big, busy prints can draw attention to areas you might prefer went unnoticed. Occasionally, I do enjoy a big, beautiful buffalo plaid or larger scale floral print, and oh my! how I do love an embroidered jacket! But when I choose a bolder print or pattern, I make sure that everything else I am wearing is very, very simple. Again, it’s about creating a classic, timeless, sophisticated look that is always in style.

Keeping your outfit mostly monochromatic creates a long, lean body line and a polished look.  If you want more color, you can bring in it by adding a jacket, vest, or shawl in a complimentary color and pattern.

LAYERS

After my post reviewing the new Weight Watchers Freestyle Program, a reader wrote that she was surprised to know I had much weight to lose because she’d seen me in person and thought I looked great.

(Thank you, bunny! That comment made my day!)

The reason people often think I weigh less than I do is because I have become very adept at using layering to my advantage.

When it comes to fashion and bodies beyond 50, layers can be our best friends. My closet is loaded with jackets, capes, shawls, and vests that help add interest to my outfit and create a long, lean line from my shoulders to a point anywhere from my knees to just below my waist.  This helps draw the eye away from any bumps or bulges and creates a sophisticated, pulled together look.

However, layering can be overdone!

Too many layers can result in a look that is sloppy and gives the impression that you’re carrying extra weight.  Normally, the best look is just two layers, with the top layer in a fabric that’s relatively lightweight and moves well.

There are, of course, exceptions to that rule. You can’t go wrong with a white blouse under a v-neck sweater and topped with a jean jacket – casual, comfortable, and classic!

 

FIT THAT’S JUST RIGHT

Even in the leanest years of my life, I had a muffin top.  But sometime after my 50th birthday, that muffin top turned into a cake. And what do we do with cake?  Cover it with frosting, right?

Good plan when you’re baking. Not so good when you’re choosing an outfit.

Resist the temptation to hide muffin tops and unwanted extra pounds under a frosting of voluminous, overly loose, ill-fitting clothing. Doing so will actually accomplish the opposite of what you want and make you look heavier than you really are.

At the other end of the spectrum, wearing clothing that is too tight and form-fitting can accentuate your least flattering features.

When you’re in the dressing room, channel your inner Goldilocks. Aim for a fit that’s not too loose and not too tight, but just right.

 

ONE FABULOUS ACCESSORY

If you’ve been reading this post while getting dressed, by now you’re wearing a classic, chic outfit in mostly solid colors and subtle patterns, possibly topped by a figure flattering jacket or duster to add a pop of color.  Very nice!

You need just one more thing; a single, show-stopping accessory. It won’t necessarily be the only accessory you’re wearing but this is the piece that should take center stage, the first thing that people notice about you, the item you get loads of compliments on.

This is my favorite part of pulling an outfit together. It’s the place where my personal style really gets to shine and there are so many directions to go. A fabulous handbag, a sumptuous silk scarf, a pair of glittery chandelier earrings, a big, bohemian necklace – any of these can take top billing in your outfit.

But your amazing accessory doesn’t have to be expensive. I do have some pretty wonderful handbags that cost me a pretty penny.  However, one of the accessories I’ve received the most compliments on is gold wrist cuff that cost twelve dollars.  Another winner was a pair of hot pink floral patterned pumps I bought for 75% off and wore with a cream colored trouser suit. Talk about a show stopper!

Accessories can be the perfect place to indulge your creativity and stretch your fashion budget.  Search sale bins, flea markets, consignment shops, tag sales, and craft show for unique and eye-catching accessories can make your look without busting your budget.

TWO IRONCLAD RULES

While there can be a lot of room for flexibility and interpretation when it comes to my tips about fashion over 50, I do hold firmly to two ironclad rules. So should you.

1) No matter how deep the discount or fancy the designer – if you don’t love it, don’t buy it!

2)  The most beautiful thing a woman can wear, at any age, is confidence. And confidence is one of the many things I love about being over fifty. If you feel confident when you put it on, that’s what you should wear.

And don’t let anybody tell you different. Not even me.

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In the spring and summer, I love a good salad. But when the weather turns cold, nothing beats a piping hot bowl of soup or chili.

Since I started on the new Weight Watchers Freestyle program, I’ve been enjoying a big, satisfying bowl of soup almost every day. It’s such a healthy, easy, delicious choice. All of these WW Freestyle soups are three points or less, even a zero point chili! What’s not to love?!

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Your Purpose in Life: It’s Never Too Late to Live Your Dream–Twice

Creativity and Crafts, Never Too Late

A Guest Blog with Dori Lawrence

Do you know that warm, excited feeling that comes over you when you meet somebody for the first time but absolutely know you’re at the beginning of a beautiful friendship?  That’s how I felt when I met Dori Lawrence in January at the Road To California quilt show and learned how she found purpose in life after fifty.

Dori is vibrant, bubbly, and bursting with energy and passion, especially when it comes to topics that are dear to both our hearts – creativity and crafting.  Dori and her daughter, Katie, run a terrific blog and podcast, Hobbies Up To Here, where they document their adventures into all things crafty. This mother-daughter duo has a terrific dynamic and a wonderfully honest approach to their creative pursuits. If you haven’t checked out Hobbies Up To Here, you should! Stories like hers are so inspiring when we are searching for our purpose in life.

In addition to a delightful personality, Dori has an amazing and inspiring personal story to share. She is living proof that it’s never too late to live your dream – and sometimes more than one!

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How to Declutter Your Closet and Your Life, One Drawer At A Time

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“Every single thing we own owns us.”

So said Abigail Burgess Wynne, in the second book of my Cobbled Court series, A Thread of Truth.

Abigail is quite a character. From the moment she walked into my imagination as I was writing A Single Thread and announced her presence with one of the more audacious introductions in literature, “People like me,” I found that I did like her.

And though Abigail isn’t the most emotionally sensitive character I’ve ever written, when she started talking about the tyrannical weight of being shackled to stuff, I recognized the wisdom of her declaration. continue reading

Long-Distance Grammy: Craft of the Month Club

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One of the toughest parts of moving into our new home was leaving our grandchildren behind. If you’re a grandma or, like me, a “grammy” – then you know how quickly you can get addicted to those grand-darlings!  For over a year, we had actually shared our home with my middle son, his wife, and two of our grand-darlings so I had become very spoiled, getting to see them every day.

Technology definitely makes it easier to stay in touch with long-distance loved ones but visiting with your grands on FaceTime (especially if they spend most of the visit making faces into the camera) just isn’t the same. continue reading

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As life goes on, the circle of people we love often expands. Of course, we’d love to shower all those people with gifts but the bigger our circle gets, the tougher that can be. But part of the fun of showing the love to your Valentine can be the joy of finding the absolutely perfect present at the absolutely perfect price, something that will bring a smile to their face without taking a big bite out of your budget.

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Heart-Healthy Valentine’s Day Desserts for Two

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My favorite part of Valentine’s Day, apart from the company, is the sweets that accompany the holiday. While my sugar high is usually short-lived and guilt-laden, I still take time each year to make something really special to end our Valentine’s Day dinner. And at our age, why not make it heart-healthy too? continue reading

WW Freestyle Review: A Dumb Question, A Smart Doctor, and Weight Loss After Fifty

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A few months back, my doctor asked me the world’s dumbest question.

“Have you ever thought about losing weight?”

After smacking myself on the forehead to signal the sheer genius of her revelation, I exclaimed, “Why, no! Until this moment, the thought had never crossed my mind. Thank you, Doctor! Thank you so much!  This changes EVERYTHING!”

Okay, okay.  I didn’t say that. But I wanted to.

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Diving Into the Deep End and Out of Your Comfort Zone

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In the fall of 2017, I began swimming twice a week as part of my triathlon training.  Like a lot of novice triathletes, this was the part of the race that made me nervous.  It wasn’t that I couldn’t swim, just that I didn’t – at least, not very often and not very far.

Finding a race that required a swim of just 300 meters in a pool was what made me decide to go through with it.  The security of swimming in a pool, where lifeguards would be on the watch, made the whole thing a lot less daunting. Three hundred meters was still farther than I’d swum in a long time but it seemed doable.

For the first session of training, my goal was to swim 50 meters.   That’s just two complete lengths of the pool, up and back.

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Consider the lowly mashed potato. The standby and staple on so many American dinner plates, ubiquitous but largely unnoticed and under appreciated, potatoes are the white noise of vegetables, particularly when they are mashed. They are comforting, of course, bringing back memories of childhood and mom’s meatloaf but the truth is, mashed potatoes are really just a vehicle for gravy.

Now, don’t get me wrong, like just about everyone, I enjoy a good mashed potato. Or even a mediocre one. But that is the problem with mashed potatoes, isn’t it?  Unless you load them up with copious amounts of butter, cream, and blood pressure spiking measures of salt, the best mashed potatoes you ever had probably weren’t that much better than the worst mashed potatoes you ever had.

But what if there was a mashed potato recipe so delicious and mouth-watering that it could steal the show at your next dinner party without adding a lot of extra fat and calories?

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